Helping Your Children Cope with the Breakup Earthquake
Listen, speak and support: 10 tips
Respect and good communication can help families get safely through the breakup earthquake of divorce or separation.
- Really listen to your spouse and your children. Think before saying anything.
- While it may be hard, control your criticism, anger and distress in front of your children.
- Find one-on-one time for each of your children so they feel nurtured, loved and listened to.
- Encourage your children to have a good time with your spouse.
- If your children are spending time in two homes, make them feel welcome and comfortable in yours.
- From time to time, ask your kids how they are doing and what you can do to help them.
- Remind yourself that putting your kids first is important for them–now and in the future.
- Let your kids know:
- They are not to blame for your breakup.
- They will not be abandoned.
- You and your ex will still be their parents.
- Give your kids consistent guidance and boundaries. They need to know what you expect of them.
- Work with your spouse to have calm, healthy and relevant communications.
Working with Collaborative Professionals can help you, your spouse and your children navigate the breakup earthquake.
Thanks to Apple Magazine, Spring 2015, Issue 17. (See applemag.ca)